Apparently, the thing to do is hook up via social media, i.e. Facebook, Twitter, etc. Someone just DM'd me on Twitter the other day talking about "you single?" No hi, my name is etc. Nothing. It's very sad. So I've decided to express some things I feel need to be known about dating/meeting people through social media. It's going to have to be extended segments because there is too much to say in one post.
1. First impressions are important. Do you want the first thing the person sees from you to be "you single?" Subtract the fact that the person may not know you this intimately, it's impersonal. How do I know you didn't just DM that message to 10 other people at the same time. You should come correct the first time because with some people [like myself] that's all you get.
2. Don't be someone you're not. I know this is especially hard for people who have the "online alter egos." The problem is you [hopefully] will meet this person. I think they will realize that your green eyes & freckles are really contacts and a whole lot of pimples. No fake pictures, fake personalities, and even faker materialistic objects. Unless you can make a Range Rover appear in thin air.
3. Everything is NOT everything. A profile, blog, bio can only tell you so much. Don't think that by reading two lines about someone's likes, you're in expert on their life. It takes years to become the person you are at this moment, and this is not who you will be when you die. Remember that it's the same for other people.
4. Meet up. If you want to have a REAL relationship, you have to meet the person you're courting. [sorry, I ♥ that word] First off, you have to prove they are who/what they say they are. Second, you just need to get to know a person in a physical setting. I suggest a public place because you met online. Very public and safe. Don't get yourself kidnapped and blame me. LOL
5. Don't be a stalker. Duh right? You'd be surprised. You're friends on Myspace, Facebook and Twitter. All of a sudden, you find yourself constantly checking the facebook to read status updates. Trying to hack the myspace. Shxt happens. I've had people text me the answer to a question I asked on Twitter, & I didn't even know they were following me. Let me just say, it's extremely creepy. It pretty much gives off a bad signal. Avoid at all costs.
I'm tired so that's all I have for now. Part 2 soon.
3. Everything is NOT everything. A profile, blog, bio can only tell you so much. Don't think that by reading two lines about someone's likes, you're in expert on their life. It takes years to become the person you are at this moment, and this is not who you will be when you die. Remember that it's the same for other people.
4. Meet up. If you want to have a REAL relationship, you have to meet the person you're courting. [sorry, I ♥ that word] First off, you have to prove they are who/what they say they are. Second, you just need to get to know a person in a physical setting. I suggest a public place because you met online. Very public and safe. Don't get yourself kidnapped and blame me. LOL
5. Don't be a stalker. Duh right? You'd be surprised. You're friends on Myspace, Facebook and Twitter. All of a sudden, you find yourself constantly checking the facebook to read status updates. Trying to hack the myspace. Shxt happens. I've had people text me the answer to a question I asked on Twitter, & I didn't even know they were following me. Let me just say, it's extremely creepy. It pretty much gives off a bad signal. Avoid at all costs.
I'm tired so that's all I have for now. Part 2 soon.
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1 comment:
haven't commented in a while, but all this e-hook ups are getting out of hand.
on facebook, ppl talk to you, but when it comes to real interaction, never happens. Myspace just invites stalkers, literally and even twitter isn't safe like that.
You're on point with each one, but another one is dont add who you dont know. learned that the hard way, lol.
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