I haven't blogged in a minute. busy w| getting classes, work, looking for work, and partying. It leaves me with a packed schedule. I don't even get to watch the shows I freaking DVR. But that's another story.
Why I am I writing today? Read the post title! I usually don't use that phrase. I find it offensive and demeaning. Yet sometimes, it just fits. I don't know what else to call these females that I see. Besides maybe pathetic. What's my issue you ask?
Everywhere I turn, there's a female taking crap from a dude! I'm not talking about an argument here or there, that's regular relationship stuff. I'm talking about outright verbal abuse! And for what? I do NOT understand why females continue to allow themselves to be put down, in 2009!
It's bad enough that we're still looked upon as second to males by many, but then you go and make it look like a reality. Newsflash: you can walk away. From any situation. A lot of people stay because of a fear that no one else will love them. They feel ugly. They need this person.
You don't need anyone who doesn't treat you how you deserve to be treated. Every person is unique, in whatever way. That uniqueness should be celebrated, always. Especially by the one you call your "significant other".
I'm tired of men, riding the bus and calling their girlfriend/wife a dumb whore. A slut. A needy child. You name it, I've heard it. And I'm disgusted every time. I often find myself having verbal arguments with these dudes. But at the end of the day, you can't change those who don't want to change.
That goes for the female as much as the male. If she chooses to continue to stay with him, she's taking a risk. A risk that her self-esteem will continue to lower until she has none left. A risk that the abuse can escalate to something physical. The risk that she may end up killing him because she just snaps one day.
It just pisses me off. And I know people will say, something probably happened to them in the childhood, etc. Those are excuses. Something happens to everyone, that's just fuxking life. I've had two major surgeries and stopped breathing during one. Whoop dee doo! Shit happens. You have to control your life and take responsibility for you. Because no one else will. Nor should they.
P.S. - The picture is the cast from the Vh1 show, "Tool Academy." They treat their girlfriends like utter shit and are awarded with $100,000 for it. Only in the USA.
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2 comments:
never heard of that show, but the concept is f'd up.
men act all hard and shit when it comes to ladies because they're scared of being seen as a pussy if they don't talk to their girls like that.
I'm not like that to my significant other and sometimes she thinks i should talk up more, but thats just how i am. its that golden rule (which should be thought of more).
there really is no excuse for going through that shit, but everyone makes up excuses because they're "in love" with that other person. bullshit if i've ever heard it.
man, i wish dudes like that would check themselves. some sad ish.
I like this piece and you really do bring up some completely valid and sometimes heartbreaking points. As a kid I remember my dad hitting my mom before he left. It was the only time he ever did that, but it really affected me. But in a positive way.
On the premise of the experience I had on that particular day, I pretty much developed the disposition that you don't lay your hands on a woman.
What I find very disturbing in this day and age is that some women seem to lack the fiber to simply walk away... Like they can't support themselves or anything. The funny thing though, is that this even happens with women like Rihanna who are not at all dependent on their boyfriends/husbands. I understand the tunnel vision that goes into being in love with someone, I have been there before, believe me. But there should be terms established that should break the relationship in hell or high water. Yeah, I get it, she loves him... But this is her life!
As far as the picture, it is from tool academy. Yes, they treated their girls like utter shit... But the concept behind it is that the host runs a set of activities to try and turn them from their ugly ways. The person that expresses the broadest degree of advancement is granted $100,000. It isn't a contest as to how poorly a man can treat his girlfriend... It is VH1's version of G's to Gents. Just wanna clear up some air on that one. It just makes the show sound a lot worse than it really is.
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