IDK why people always come to me for relationship advice? As if they don't know I'm very blunt & honest. I'm not gonna BS to make you feel better. But here is what someone brought to me recently. . .
At one of my normal get togethers, a close friend of mine (Taylor) and an acquaintance (no name) hooked up. [Not actually in my house cause EWWW!] They met there and hooked up, whatever. Now Taylor is a blunt kind of dude and told no name that he had a girl and was not trying to be in a relationship with her. Said girl was hooked on the sex and told him that she would be fine with playing the sidelines. So this continued on for about 2mos.
All of a sudden, said girl comes to me like "you need to talk to Taylor about how he's stringing me along & cheating on his girlfriend." Umm, que? One, whythefuxk am I the one who must speak with him and two, stringing along? From jump, you knew what he was looking for out of the relationship.
Ahh, here is the issue. A relationship. You're not in one. You can't expect all the benefits of being in one when you're the side girl. You also can't be madd if you get tired of it & he cuts you loose. I mean, he was straight with you from the beginning. He could have been very mean and kept his business to himself. He put it all on the table and you accepted.
Why do people expect everything to just morph into something different? When people say they want to be with you and not in a relationship it's usually for two reasons: they don't want a relationship but need to be fulfilled in some kind of way [emotionally, sexually, and mentally etc.] or they don't feel like you're the type of person they would want a relationship with at the moment.
I'm sorry if that hurts, you suddenly feel like you can do better or you thought you could
Also remember, if you choose you can leave & find someone else where you can be more than that. It's all up to you.
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that scenario is pretty relative.
im just going to go as far as saying i messed up in the past, but thats why sex aint nothin to fuck with (no pun intended, okay maybe a little) because the physical strings along the emotional and something that turns out for benefits at first turns into the "other" wanting more. I learned that lesson quickly. it never fails.
but "no name" wants you to tell dude about it? really? smh. no balls i tell you.
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