The Repeat Offender

This is the first post in a series I'm thinking about doing on friend types. We'll see...

Today I want to discuss the repeat offender. This is the friend who no matter what, seems to do the same thing over & over to offend/annoy you. These friends can come in various shapes, sizes, and colors. What do I mean by that? Let's take a look.

There is the "you're always doing this sh*t to me" type.
Now I hate when people put their hand in my food. It's a boundary thing. I don't know where in hell your hands have been and I didn't see you wash them. Oh AND you didn't ask me, which is just a no-no. But I have one of those friends that whenever you're eating, she is there grabbing. Oh no. I had to end that but more on the ending later.

There's the "you're always doing this to yourself" type.
This is the stupid friend that constantly annoys you with problems with life issues, such as her boyfriend. Now this wouldn't bother me except you've dated the same man 4 times in the last half a year. Are we serious? He does some sh*t to you (I mean plays you hard, even MY feelings are hurt), you guys break up. You ask me for advice, I tell you what I think. A few weeks later, you're with him AGAIN. WTF? And after I wasted all my damn time consoling your weak ass, you don't even have the decency to let me know. I gotta check that sh*t on facebook? #FAIL

Finally, there's the "why are you always doing this?" type.
This is friend may not be doing anything directly to you. I have a friend that shows up late EVERYWHERE she goes. She isn't directly hurting me, but people know we're friends. Every time she's late, I can feel people looking at me like "talk to your girl. It's just annoying as hell. If everyone else figured out how to make it here on time with public transportation, so can your ass.

Now what to do with this friend. I say cut them off. Why? Obviously, they are a repeat offender for a reason. I assume (I mean y'all are friends) that you've already spoken to said person about these issues. Yet they continue to do the same sh*t. Now there are only two possible outcomes:

A) You begin to internalize and harbor ill will towards this person. Every time you see said person you want to (as the lovely lady from Bad Girls Club put it) "snatch a btch!" It doesn't matter if what they're doing is good or bad, right or wrong. Their presence just drives you up the wall. This could possibly lead to option B.

B) You actually "snatch a btch!" It may start off as a verbal confrontation. Depending on the personalities of those involved, it could escalate to a physical level. Now you're on your way to assault charges over some person that you shouldn't have been friends with in the first place.

Bottom line: They are bringing nothing but DRAMA into your already cramped life. Cut 'em loose. One less friend means less weight on your back.

Who Cares About Your Friend?

You know what I hate, people always doing what their friend does.
Your friend doesn't like me? What does that have to do with me & you.
Do you live with said friend? Is said friend paying your bills?
Is said friend doing anything other than being an asshole?

Now I understand backing up a friend. I have done it many times. Only when I feel like my friend is in the right. If I feel my friend is being completely wrong & on top of that, ignorant, I will be the first one to intervene and tell them to shut up! I don't believe in judging people by what they do at one time. I don't believe in judging people at all but let's not act like it doesn't happen. People judge your appearance, speech and demeanor on a daily basis. That's the reason people dress up to work instead of going in jeans and sneakers. But I digress. My thing is if you are going to make any kind of judgment, you should be fully informed. I mean, how can you judge something [or someone] you know NOTHING about! Honestly, what can you really say? And on top of that, you're judging based on something you heard from someone who is clearly not an impartial party. Ignorance really must be bliss because some of these dumb people don't want to get off cloud 9.

And then you [a self proclaimed friend] decide to back up this foolishness. Even though you know what kind of person I am and how this would make me feel. Overlooking all the times I've stood my ground for you. When people told me you were a no good whorebag [that's a quote] I still stuck by you. And this is how you repay me? And people wonder why no one trusts anymore. . .SMH.

People spend too much time worrying about me. If you guys spent half that time worrying about you, you might actually be doing something with your life.