Fashion or Foolery?

My rant today? Fashion. Is it just me or does everyone dress exactly the same way? It's like you're either 80s, high fashion, or grunge. There is no in-between or variety. And I'm tired of it. Why the fuxk do you have to look like Beyonce in the Diva video every time you leave your house? You don't have Beyonce's body. So at the end of the day, you end up looking ridiculous! I see all these fat bitxhes trying to squeeze into some tight shxt because they think it's sexy. That's a no sweetie.

And dudes? Don't get me started. A dude gets a Gucci belt and thinks he's flyer that Soulja Boy, not like he should be anyone's idol anyways. Oh wow, a Gucci belt. That you probably got on sale, for your birthday, for Christmas or on Canal Street [bootleg y'all!] Ugh, I'm extremely over it. I would prefer a well-dressed gentleman with subtle name brands [if you choose to wear name brand clothing] over a flashy, LV shoes, riding on 24s, Lacoste & 25¢ chain wearing bum with credit shot to hell. Cause y'all know you buying that shxt w| money you don't have and won't be able to get.

I'm sorry, but imitation is not the best form of flattery, a compliment is and always will be number one. Admire and then do you because you can't do anyone else and damn sure not as well as they do themselves. Feel free to draw from others creativity, but twist it to fit you. Otherwise we end up with what we have know, a whole bunch of people looking exactly the same.

P.S. - Follow me on Twitter. I get bored often. LOL

If Looks Could Kill

. . .I'd be a dead bitxh!

My rant today: the female sex. What the hell is wrong with us? Every female I meet is like "don't judge a book by its cover. You have to be open and judge people on personality. Not just looks." Oh really? Then how come I am always being judged by these bitxhes? For nothing more than keeping myself groomed & up to par. I swear it's everywhere I go.

I get on the bus with a nice coat and some fly ass kicks. The rest of my outfit is fly but they can't see all that. I sit down, look around, and notice every bitxh on the bus is stealing glances at me. I kid you not, every damn female. And it's not the "I love your shoes" kinda look. It's the "who does this bitxh think she is" look. You don't even know me! You don't know anything about me and yet, you hate me. Not even disdain or dislike, but straight up hate. For no effing reason.

I hate my gender to the point that if I go on a job interview, I want a male. Not because I want to use sex appeal of any kind, but because I know I'll have a fair shot. He's going to judge me on me. Nowhere in the back of his mind is he thinking. "she's pretty, I don't need competition." Which I swear is what every female must think when they see a pretty female. It's like can we please uplift each other because who the fuxk else is going to?

Minus myself and some friends, I've never heard any female tell another that she looks sexy. What's wrong with that? If someone looks good, I'm going to say it. If I like your dress, I'm going to say it. Compliments are not illegal, nor are you putting yourself down. You're just telling it like it is.

Confidence makes a female sexy. I can see why most of you girls are single. Get it together. Talk to me when you grow up.

Dumb Broad!

I haven't blogged in a minute. busy w| getting classes, work, looking for work, and partying. It leaves me with a packed schedule. I don't even get to watch the shows I freaking DVR. But that's another story.

Why I am I writing today? Read the post title! I usually don't use that phrase. I find it offensive and demeaning. Yet sometimes, it just fits. I don't know what else to call these females that I see. Besides maybe pathetic. What's my issue you ask?

Everywhere I turn, there's a female taking crap from a dude! I'm not talking about an argument here or there, that's regular relationship stuff. I'm talking about outright verbal abuse! And for what? I do NOT understand why females continue to allow themselves to be put down, in 2009!

It's bad enough that we're still looked upon as second to males by many, but then you go and make it look like a reality. Newsflash: you can walk away. From any situation. A lot of people stay because of a fear that no one else will love them. They feel ugly. They need this person.

You don't need anyone who doesn't treat you how you deserve to be treated. Every person is unique, in whatever way. That uniqueness should be celebrated, always. Especially by the one you call your "significant other".

I'm tired of men, riding the bus and calling their girlfriend/wife a dumb whore. A slut. A needy child. You name it, I've heard it. And I'm disgusted every time. I often find myself having verbal arguments with these dudes. But at the end of the day, you can't change those who don't want to change.

That goes for the female as much as the male. If she chooses to continue to stay with him, she's taking a risk. A risk that her self-esteem will continue to lower until she has none left. A risk that the abuse can escalate to something physical. The risk that she may end up killing him because she just snaps one day.

It just pisses me off. And I know people will say, something probably happened to them in the childhood, etc. Those are excuses. Something happens to everyone, that's just fuxking life. I've had two major surgeries and stopped breathing during one. Whoop dee doo! Shit happens. You have to control your life and take responsibility for you. Because no one else will. Nor should they.

P.S. - The picture is the cast from the Vh1 show, "Tool Academy." They treat their girlfriends like utter shit and are awarded with $100,000 for it. Only in the USA.

RelationWHAT; justacuttybuddy

IDK why people always come to me for relationship advice? As if they don't know I'm very blunt & honest. I'm not gonna BS to make you feel better. But here is what someone brought to me recently. . .

At one of my normal get togethers, a close friend of mine (Taylor) and an acquaintance (no name) hooked up. [Not actually in my house cause EWWW!] They met there and hooked up, whatever. Now Taylor is a blunt kind of dude and told no name that he had a girl and was not trying to be in a relationship with her. Said girl was hooked on the sex and told him that she would be fine with playing the sidelines. So this continued on for about 2mos.

All of a sudden, said girl comes to me like "you need to talk to Taylor about how he's stringing me along & cheating on his girlfriend." Umm, que? One, whythefuxk am I the one who must speak with him and two, stringing along? From jump, you knew what he was looking for out of the relationship.

Ahh, here is the issue. A relationship. You're not in one. You can't expect all the benefits of being in one when you're the side girl. You also can't be madd if you get tired of it & he cuts you loose. I mean, he was straight with you from the beginning. He could have been very mean and kept his business to himself. He put it all on the table and you accepted.

Why do people expect everything to just morph into something different? When people say they want to be with you and not in a relationship it's usually for two reasons: they don't want a relationship but need to be fulfilled in some kind of way [emotionally, sexually, and mentally etc.] or they don't feel like you're the type of person they would want a relationship with at the moment.

I'm sorry if that hurts, you suddenly feel like you can do better or you thought you could convincemake it something more, but that's not the other person's fault. I personally hate when boys all of a sudden get attached and then get all possessive, jealous, etc. You can't force people into a relationship. Remember, you're just the cutty buddy. Don't overstep the boundaries.

Also remember, if you choose you can leave & find someone else where you can be more than that. It's all up to you.

Who Cares About Your Friend?

You know what I hate, people always doing what their friend does.
Your friend doesn't like me? What does that have to do with me & you.
Do you live with said friend? Is said friend paying your bills?
Is said friend doing anything other than being an asshole?

Now I understand backing up a friend. I have done it many times. Only when I feel like my friend is in the right. If I feel my friend is being completely wrong & on top of that, ignorant, I will be the first one to intervene and tell them to shut up! I don't believe in judging people by what they do at one time. I don't believe in judging people at all but let's not act like it doesn't happen. People judge your appearance, speech and demeanor on a daily basis. That's the reason people dress up to work instead of going in jeans and sneakers. But I digress. My thing is if you are going to make any kind of judgment, you should be fully informed. I mean, how can you judge something [or someone] you know NOTHING about! Honestly, what can you really say? And on top of that, you're judging based on something you heard from someone who is clearly not an impartial party. Ignorance really must be bliss because some of these dumb people don't want to get off cloud 9.

And then you [a self proclaimed friend] decide to back up this foolishness. Even though you know what kind of person I am and how this would make me feel. Overlooking all the times I've stood my ground for you. When people told me you were a no good whorebag [that's a quote] I still stuck by you. And this is how you repay me? And people wonder why no one trusts anymore. . .SMH.

People spend too much time worrying about me. If you guys spent half that time worrying about you, you might actually be doing something with your life.

Pet Peeves: Take 1

I had a really annoying morning. It seemed like everyone wanted to push my buttons. I decided to do a pet peeve list. Writing things out always makes me feel better.

1. When people push you to get someplace you're going with them - Living in NY, I understand the MTA situation is often frustrating and complicated. DO NOT blame that on me. Why are you almost knocking me over to get into the same train I'm walking into? AND it's not as if I walk slow, I use my long legs wisely. Please behave like your mother gave you home training. First come, first serve.

2. When people walk slow and then try to block you from passing them - Listen, I did not ask you to move at .5/mph. The average speed of a human is 3mph. My average speed is about 6mph. That means you need to get the hell out of my way. ASAP! I am probably on the brink of being late and I'm not in the mood for any shenanigans. [Only applies on streets, not in any cramped subways like the idiot the led to pet peeve #1]

3. When people try to get loud when you push them - Well if you would have let me pass you in the middle of the wide street that you somehow have managed to completely block, I wouldn't have to push you. And it was not even a push, I tried to squeeze by your fat self but as skinny as I am, I still brushed you. . .just barely. Don't let the glasses fool you, I'm from Brooklyn too.

4. When a guy says hey ma or something to that effect - Umm, I have a name. You don't know it. There's a reason for that. I don't know you nor do I want to. Especially when you dared to call me slim goodie and expected me to look. Is this how you usually get females? Or maybe you just don't get any. I see why.

5. Jumbled up messages on the subway - I finally get on a train and sit. Then I hear this bs service message that is not understandable due to the bs train speakers and the operator's thick accent. Next thing I know, the train pulls into Timbuktu. And you say you announced it? Then why is everybody on the train ready to jump you? I see why they are giving people 7years for assaulting an MTA worker. The mayor obviously knows they need the protection.

6. Girls talking very loud and ghetto - I don't want to hear about Melinda fu*king your best friend's man. I could careless. I also don't need to know the last time you got tested for an STD. From what I heard though, you'll be hitting the clinic real soon.

7. People staring at you - You are not slick. I have peripheral vision. I can see you gawking at me. Yes, I'm amazing. Look once and then look away. I don't want you. I don't want your man. Hell, I don't care if we went to preschool together.

8. Dudes arguing with the baby mommas - Oh, you just bought the baby Huggies yesterday? You're getting a job at McDonald's. You are THINKING about taking classes at a trade school. Oh yeah, who cares but you & her. Lower your voice because honestly you're just embarrassing yourself.

9. People asking me if I'm sure a MILLION times - There's a seat. I don't want to sit. You sit! Don't ask me if I'm sure 50 million times. I'm an educated young woman. I'm neither stupid or retarded, just polite. Sit down guilt free, I'm sure.

10. When people do everything they can to act like they're hot sh*t - Oh you have an IPhone? Wasn't that subsidized and don't over 5 million other people have that. You have an ITouch? Guess what bit*h, mine is engraved. And I didn't spend a dime on it. You have some Sephora lipgloss, mine is from MAC. ALDO shoes? My custom Nikes cost more than that. You have friends to talk to on the phone, me too. You have a boyfriend, me too. No need to talk all loud and attempt to draw attention to yourself. You're not as super as you think.

That's all I can remember right now. What a sucky morning! I can't wait for 5. . .All this stuff is kind of funny now that I think about it. Chuckle worthy because I'm still upset, so it can't get a full laugh.

When I Grow Up

Okay, is it just me or does almost every female want to be a model/designer/actress? It's like everyone feels they will just be discovered off the street & all of a sudden they will have a fairytale life. No one wants to put in any WORK anymore. People just want to sit back & let jobs come to them.

News flash: IT'S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN. The people who are in positions that you want to be put in work. And lot's of it. The models were entering themselves in a whole bunch of talent showcases. Designers were basically giving away their pieces. Actresses were taking lessons and growing their talent [or getting some.] Anyone who does nothing, gets nothing [unless you're born rich; wish i was you!] Put some work into it.

Oh & another thing, these are not the ONLY three careers out here for females! There are so many other amazing professions. Doctors, teachers, lawyers, psychologists, presidents, religious leaders, hell even rappers. Why are people limiting themselves to using only their outward features [which a lot of times aren't that great] to launch a whole career? There are so many other interesting things you could do with your life.

I'm tired of potential being wasted. I'm tired of my 3 year old cousin thinking she needs 3' heels. I'm tired of every girl fancying themselves a fashionista. I'm tired of all the people who claim to be original, but look like everyone else. I'm tired of everyone wearing a bright color and thinking they are retro. I'm tired of peole digging in their basement and calling clothes from the 90s vintage. I'm tired of people buying the same brands as everyone else instead of investing in growing businesses. I'm tired of everyone becoming a drone.

Dare to be waaaay different. . .